Today was a day for resilience in the form of writing. Tomorrow? I’ll start a podcast, a blog, write three plays, devise some meaningful performance art and get accepted into that doctorate program I have my eye on… A career is not started in a day, a platform not resurrected in one either. Today is the day I begin to tell this story, to reconnect. Today is a good day.Read More
My family has so much pride and for me this meant that being poor always filled me with a deep sense of shame. We never talked about it, but I always knew that I was different. Most kids didn’t have to take the day off school because their mother had nothing to give them for lunch that day and didn’t want the school nosing around.Read More
Walking around a club drinking champagne in shiny eight inch heels and a sequin bodysuit might sound glamorous to some, but what about being mentally and emotionally drained from talking to men all night? What about bruises, blisters and sore limbs? A body clock that doesn’t align with the norms facilitated by the rest of society? Being more susceptible to attacks due to dehumanisation? Potentially jeopardising relationships with your loved ones? Being at risk of having someone deny you a job or a lease because you are/used to be a stripper?Read More
Long hair has always been a symbol of femininity; it brings to mind the goddesses painted by the male “greats”: Venus, Aphrodite, Lilith.Read More
From a very young age, watching old family videos of myself was extremely uncomfortable. I didn't know what the word 'transgender' meant, or 'dysphoria'. It didn't feel like watching a younger, more innocent version of myself – it felt like watching a loved one who wasn't there anymore. As though one day they’d simply stepped off the path I'd followed.Read More
he takes the invitation,
setting up his army of bending knees
and jaggering arms.
i shimmy to his shake, forearms up,
i’ve come out swinging wildly,
creating a shield of air and space,
bricks built with each dramatic vogue.
I'm sick of feeling embarrassed & apologetic for the way I look, act & am.
I can dress, eat, drink & look however I want.
I want to be & do whatever I want.Read More
The cultural perception of mother-daughter relationships is an interesting one. There is this idea, a pressure almost, that you should grow up to be best friends with your mum. The way these relationships are held up, hailed as the type of relationship all women should aspire to have with their mothers, only show one side of the story, one aspect of a complicated situation.Read More
the hand of the butcher
has halved me
and his is a blade that
cuts and heals simultaneously
“Said you needed some time away from home.”
I told you it is necessary for you to be away from home.
I told you that you need to stay away from home.
I told you that you have to stay home.